Betrayal Rampant : Women Don't Know They Are Dying

[Leslie Flowers, Change Agent]

HOW can that BE, you may wonder. I know we are all busy with our own lives, issues and concerns. I get it. And I'm the Queen Bee of Positive Thought (self dubbed).

So bringing up anything negative typically goes against my beliefs.

Perhaps you are simply unaware of the fact that tens of thousands of women in the US are dead or dying of HIV Aids and don't even know it.

You also may wonder ... why is this important to me? Or be thinking ... this doesn't affect me.

ARE YOU SURE? Could it be you DON'T KNOW and don't WANT TO KNOW?

So here's the deal.

Women in long term marriages, who raised their families, dedicated themselves to one man and built roots, retirement, families, and trusted ... are being betrayed by their husbands, as a result of rampant addiction!

These women are betrayed and left broken, rootless, financially bankrupt, with no real skills to support themselves. They are hiding, are alone, and think it’s their fault!
Alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, and sexual addiction are moving scores of men to give up everything they've ever worked for, loved and trusted ... for the
pull of addiction.

It's sexual addiction that has women dead or dying of HIV Aids.

When a man cheats on his wife, he does not run home and say, "honey, go have yourself tested for Aids and STDs because I've just cheated on you."

Prostitution is commonplace everywhere. It's rampant in RTP. Men no longer go to the south side of a city and risk being caught by police. They go to one web site, make one phone call, drive 2 minutes to local hotel during lunch, drop $150-400 with a prostitute, and head back to work. Easy enough, right? These men refer to themselves as 'hobbyists.' Paying for sex is their hobby. They call the hookers 'providers.'

These addictions cross ALL SOCIOECONOMIC lines. And the tough part is that if you are in a long term marriage, you are so ... with TRUST. You don’t marry with mistrust in mind. Even considering getting these tests is uncomfortable for a woman whose husband may or may not cheat, or who senses ‘something is wrong here’ and is afraid to look there.

I am on a Mission. I have found my Passion. I am going to find these women (50-70) and give them hope RIGHT NOW! I was one of those women 10 years ago. I have not spoken about it until now because I had to be completely healed to turn it around to help. Do I have bad days sometimes? Sure I do. But in the long run I know I had this experience so I can help other women pick themselves up by their bootstraps, grow new roots amongst the muddy waters, begin to flower like the beautiful lotus blossom, and then to rise like a phoenix to be better than ever before.

I will be interviewed Sunday at 3 pm on KWAM in Memphis TN and will discuss my Mission.

If you are a married woman, one that has been betrayed, or know someone in this situation, get yourself tested for HIV Aids and STDs whether it’s comfortable or not. It could well save your life.

[Michelle Gower]

Leslie, I wouldn't worry about talking about negative things, as we create positivity by acknowledging the negative. By saying yes to our universe we empower ourselves to move through whatever the universe is giving us. As long as you are providing a voice for the negativity to be defeated, I'd say you are good to go!

[Julie Jones]

Thanks, Leslie! I was tested long ago after kicking my ex-husband out. He had a looong history of "other" women - and I was in denial. As I've heard before, pride and denial can kill us! Ladies, get tested. You may get the best news of your life. It's better to know.

[MICHAEL GUADAGNO www.iSpyCk.com]

Talking about negative subject material at appropriate times is a reality of life. What matters is how you live your life. Personally, I smile every time I see your name because of the lasting positive impression you make upon me. Congratulations on your recent accomplishments. I enjoyed reading about your mission and wish you much luck. I would like to make the following comments based on my professional and personal experience. Please consider them as, constructive addition to your topic.

Women are rapidly climbing the corporate ladder and are equal to men in many fields of profession. Women are also equally gaining in the field of infidelity. Women are no different than men in that they put themselves in the sexual market place. Women also have, the “pull of addiction”, and they also spend “$150.00 to $400.00” on their “boy toys” and much more. Their money is spent differently and not as cold as the $150-$400 spending of some of the men that you have mentioned. Women spend it under the title of business expenses, such as business dinners, travel, entertaining clients, etc., and it’s all deductable. In some ways women are better business minded than men. I doubt it if men fraudulently claim their cash expenditures on activities related to this subject material.

If I were the “hunted” and in cases mostly concerning a “personal vendetta”, I much rather have a man hunting me down than a woman. My reason being from what I have seen during Investigations conducted on the behalf of both male and female victims. [More on the psychology of this at another time.]

During Investigations I have a personal perspective on the depth of human behavior of all types of clients. Most of my domestic clients are women and most of my business clients are men. Government clients are about equal. When a client calls upon me I really am not concerned about if they are male or female. They both have similar problems on a variety of different subject material and both have equal legal rights. Investigations are conducted aggressively for both females and males.

From personal experience I feel that men are victims about equal to women, concerning this subject of discussion. I am not aware that men have the number of support groups available for them that women do. Perhaps they should be considered also.

Thank you,
MGuadagno Associates, www.iSpyCk.com

[Leslie Flowers, Change Agent]

Thanks for your input, my friend. No doubt there are women who behave this way. Statistics show that women, although they may be climbing the corporate ladder now, still are only paid 75% of what men make. Yes women have boy toys. Those women are called cougars -- while sugar daddy's have been around forever. This however is not my niche. And let me say that if men don't have support groups, that's theirs to deal with. The nature of men is quite different than women I am sure you know.

Regardless of statistics, still there are tens of thousands of women, broken, battered, with broken roots, few skills and taking on their husband's betrayal as a result of their addictions like it is their fault, stifling them, paralyzing them, leaving them alone. And those who have been cheated on by a sex addict or just a cheater in general, have already died and are now dying of HIV Aids or are infected with an STD as a direct result of this irresponsible behavior.

For the few men that feel this betrayal, they still are better ready to earn a living than the woman who has stayed at home or kept part time jobs all her life to raise her children and keep a home.

I appreciate your ringing in here, Michael. We each are entitled to our perspective ... I have studied prostitution and sexual addiction very thoroughly and I can tell you male sex addicts far outweigh women.

See you at coffee :)

Leslie